Ukubhuqa abantu.Yini isizathu esenza umuntu agcone abantu?

Ukubhuqa abantu

Ukugcona abantu kuwukuziphatha okuveza inkanuko nenhlamba kwabanye.
Ukubhuqa kuhlukaniswe izingxenye ezimbili, ukubhuqa okusobala kanye nokubhuqa okungazenzisi.
Ekubhuqweni okusobala, kusetshenziswa amagama nezenzo okungavumelani abantu ababili njengokugcona.
Lolu hlobo lokugconwa kwabantu lwaziwa ngokuthi luyasoleka futhi luyasoleka futhi lunemiphumela engemihle.

Ukubhuqa okungacacile kubhekwa njengokubulala kakhulu, njengoba kuphuca umuntu ogconwayo isithunzi sakhe, kubulala imizwa yakhe, futhi kumcekele phansi ngokwengqondo.
Kuyaphawuleka ukuthi ukugcona okungazenzisi kwashiwo futhi encwadini ethi The Encyclopedia of Islamic Ethics, ekuchaza njengokubi ngokwedlulele, okungalungile, nokunonya.

Ukugcona abantu kubhekwa njengokuziphatha okungamukelekile nokuhlazisayo, njengoba kwephula ukuziphatha komphakathi futhi kumema izingxabano neziyaluyalu.
Ukugcona abantu kwenqatshelwe e-Islam futhi kujeziswa ngumthetho wamaSulumane, njengoba ubeka isidingo sokuhlonipha isithunzi sabantu hhayi ukudelela noma ukuhlekisa ngabo.

Kusho ukuthini ukugcona abantu?

Incazelo yokugcona abantu iwukugcona nokululaza abanye, futhi kuyisenzo esibonisa ukuntula inhlonipho nokudelela kubo.
Izinhlobo zokubhuqa zihlukaniswe izigaba ezimbili eziyinhloko: ukubhuqa ingcaca kanye nokubhuqa okungacacile.

Ukubhuqa okusobala ngezenzo namazwi omuntu acacile nangagwegwesi kuveza ukudelela komuntu abanye kanye nokubagcona kwakhe.
Kuyisithombe esinecala nesongekayo sokuziphatha komuntu, futhi sithathwa njengesibi ngokwedlulele, esingenabulungisa futhi sinolaka.
Kushiya imiphumela engemihle kubantu abahleka usulu futhi abahlekwa usulu, njengoba bezizwa belulazekile futhi bengelutho.

Ngokuqondene nokugcona okungaqondile, kuhlanganisa ukuziphatha nezenzo umuntu azenzayo ngaphandle kokuveza ngokusobala ukwedelela kwakhe abanye.
Lolu hlobo lokubhuqa luvamise ukudida futhi alucaci, okwenza kube nzima kakhulu ukululawula nokulubona.

Uyini umehluko phakathi kokubhuqa nokubhuqa?

1. Incazelo yokubhuqa:
   Ukubhuqa kuwukugcona noma ukugcona othile noma into ethile, ngokuvamile okwenza lowo ogconwayo azizwe edelelekile noma ecasukile.
   Ukubhuqa kungase kusetshenziswe ngokulingisa umuntu, ukukhuluma ngaye ngendlela ebhuqayo, noma ukusebenzisa umfanekiso ohlekisayo ukuze kufanekiswe imfanelo yokubhuqa yomuntu ogconwayo.
   Ukubhuqa ngezinye izikhathi kungase kube mnene futhi kube mnene, kodwa ngokuvamile kubukhali futhi kuqine.
2. Incazelo yokubhuqa:
   Ngokuqondene nokugconwa, kubhekiselwa ekubhuqweni nasekubhuqweni umuntu ngaphandle kokuba kube nesizathu esithile noma isenzo sangaphambilini sokugconwa.
   Ekuhlekweni, izenzo noma izici zomuntu siqu zomuntu ogconwayo zisetshenziswa njengesizathu sokugconwa nokugconwa, ngaphandle kokuba kube nesizathu esiphawulekayo.
3. Ukufana phakathi kokubhuqa nokubhuqa:
   Nakuba kunomehluko ocacile phakathi kokubhuqa nokubhuqa, kuxhumene ekusetshenzisweni kwenkulumo ebhuqayo ukuthuka noma ukwedlula omunye.
   Umklolodeli uyedlula futhi agabise into egconwayo, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ukudelela kwakhe into egconwayo kubonakala kumdeleli.

Kuthebula elilandelayo, sifingqa umehluko phakathi kokubhuqa nokubhuqa:

Yisiphi isizathu esenza umuntu ahlekise ngabantu?

1. Umhawu nomona: Abanye abantu bangase babe nomona ngezifezo noma izimfanelo zabanye, ngakho ukubhuqa kuyindlela yokunciphisa leyo mizwa engemihle.
2. Ukuziphindiselela: Uma abanye abantu baye bagconwa noma bacasulwa esikhathini esidlule, bangase babuyisele abanye ngokuziphatha okufanayo.
3. Ukuntula ukuzethemba: Ukuntula ukuzethemba kungaba nengxenye ekwenzeni inhlekisa ngabanye. Lapho umklolodeli ezama ukukhombisa amandla akhe nokuphakama kwakhe ngokulimaza abanye.
4. Ukufuna ukwamukelwa nokuba ngowabanye: Kwesinye isikhathi, abanye abantu basebenzisa ukubhuqa njengendlela yokungena eqenjini elithile noma endaweni, njengoba bekholelwa ukuthi kuyindlela yokuthola ukuhlonishwa okwengeziwe nokugxekwa okuhle kozakwabo.
5. Isitayela sobuntu: Abantu abajwayele ukuklolodela abanye bangase babe nesitayela sobuntu esibenza bajabulele ukubukela phansi nokuxhaphaza abanye.
6. Izingcindezi zokuphila: Ukugconwa kungaba nengxenye ekudambiseni izingcindezi nezingcindezi zokuphila, njengoba umuntu engase agcone abanye ukuze abalekele izinkinga zakhe zomuntu siqu.
7. Ukuntuleka kokubumbana komphakathi: Kwezinye izimo, ukugcona kungase kube nengxenye ekujabuliseni iqembu noma ekuqiniseni izibopho phakathi kwamalungu alo.
8. Izici zesiko nezendawo ezungezile: Kwamanye amasiko, ukugcona kungase kubhekwe njengengxenye yokuxhumana nabantu futhi kubhekwe ngendlela eyakhayo noma eyamukelekayo.

Kufanele ngenzenjani uma ngithuka umuntu?

Amaphutha abanye yinto okumele siyigweme.Ukugcona abantu akwamukelekile futhi kumele sibhekane nakho ngokuqinile.
Uma wenza leli phutha, nazi izinyathelo ongazilandela ukuze ubhekane nalesi simo:

1. Vuma iphutha:
   Xolisa ngobuqotho kumuntu omonile.
   Lesi sinyathelo singase sibe nzima, kodwa kuyadingeka ukukhombisa ukuzisola kwakho kanye nenhlonipho ngomuntu omhlukumezile.
   Lokhu kungase kukusize ubuyisele ukwethembana phakathi kwenu.
2. Funda isifundo kulesi sigameko:
   Zama ukuzuza kulokhu okuhlangenwe nakho ukuze ungaphindi lokhu kuziphatha nabanye esikhathini esizayo.
   Khumbula ukuthi wonke umuntu unezindaba zakhe futhi angaba nobuthakathaka obuthile noma isithiyo abhekene naso.
3. Zimisele ukushintsha:
   Kungase kudingeke uthuthukise ezinye zezici zakho siqu, njengokubekezelelana, inhlonipho nokuqonda.
   Lokhu kungase kukusize ugweme ukwenza amaphutha afanayo esikhathini esizayo.
4. Cabangela imibono yabanye abantu:
   Ungase ube nabangane noma abanye abantu abangakunikeza impendulo eyakhayo mayelana nokuziphatha kwakho.
   Zilungiselele ukubalalela futhi wamukele impendulo yabo ngomoya ovulekile, njengoba lokhu kungase kukusize uthuthukise imodeli efanele yokusebenzelana nabanye.
5. qala futhi:
   Ungasivumeli lesi sinyathelo sibe nomthelela omubi ebudlelwaneni bakho, qala phansi uzame ukwakha ubudlelwano obunempilo nobuhle nabanye.
   Yiba nesineke futhi uhloniphe imibono nezidingo zabo.

Yiziphi izinhlobo zokubhuqa?

Ukubhuqa kubhekwa njengenye yezindlela ezibaluleke kakhulu zokukhuluma umuntu angazisebenzisa, njengoba kuguqula amagama abe yizincazelo ezihlukile kulokho isikhulumi esifuna ukukuveza ngokoqobo.
Ukubhuqa kusetshenziselwa ukugxeka nokugxeka ngendlela ehlekisayo ngokuhleka nokubhuqa, ngokuvamile ngenjongo ethile.
Kodwa-ke, kunezinhlobo ezimbili eziyinhloko ze-irony okungahlukaniswa ngazo izinhlobo ezahlukene.

Ukubhuqa okuhle:
Lolu hlobo lokubhuqa luphathelene nokuhlakanipha nokulinganisela ngendaba ehlekwa usulu.
Akayeqi imingcele yenhlonipho nomusa, kodwa kunalokho usebenzisa ubuhlakani nobuhlakani ukukhombisa izici ezibhuqayo ngendlela elinganiselayo.

Izinhlobo zokubhuqa okuhle:

1. Indida yesibongo: lapho amabizo nezichasiso kudideke ngendlela ehlekisayo, noma ngabe kungenxa yengozi ehlekisayo noma isimo esingavamile, kuze kube yilapho igama liphenduka isiteketiso lowo muntu adume ngaso nakuba eseyidalile.
2. Ukuzibhuqa: Ukubhuqa kusetshenziselwa ukukhombisa ihaba lesikhulumi sokuthobeka nokungabi nasizo.

Ukubhuqa okungekuhle:
Kulolu hlobo lokubhuqa, lusetshenziswa ngokhahlo kakhulu futhi luqondise ukugxekwa okunokhahlo endabeni egconwayo.
Lokhu kubhuqa kungase kweqe imingcele yenhlonipho futhi kube inhlamba kwabanye.

Izinhlobo zokubhuqa ezingezinhle:

1. Ukuklolodela abanamandla: Isikhulumi sisebenzisa ukubhuqa ukuze sigxeke futhi sigcone abantu abanamandla nabavelele.
2. Ukubhuqa Ababuthakathaka: Kusetshenziselwa ukuhleka usulu nokusongela abantu ababuthaka nabasengozini enkulu.

Umphendula kanjani umuntu okuhlekayo?

Ukubhekana nezimo zokubhuqa zothile kungase kungakhululeki futhi kuthinte ukuzethemba kwakho, kodwa akhona amasu angakusiza ukuba ubhekane nalezi zimo ngendlela engcono.

1. Ukungakunaki ukubhuqa: Enye indlela ephumelelayo yokubhekana nokubhuqa iwukuziba.
   Umuntu obhuqayo angase azame ukukudonsela amehlo noma afune ukusabela kuwe, ngakho-ke kungcono kakhulu ukuba ungamnaki.
   Gxila emigomweni yakho nakulokho othanda ukukwenza esikhundleni sokucabanga ngokuphendula ukugconwa.
2. Phendula ngomoya wenjabulo: Ungase uthole ukuthi ukusabela ngomoya ojabulisayo kungase kunciphise ubukhali bokubhuqa futhi kushintshe ukushintsha kwesimo.
   Zama ukusebenzisa imishwana ehlekisayo noma ukuphawula okubhuqayo ukuze uguqule isimo futhi ubonise ukuthi ungazisingatha kahle izimo ezinzima.
3. Zihleke: Ukuzihlekisa kungase kube ithuba elihle lokubonisa abanye ukuthi ungumuntu ongathathi izinto ngokungathi sína, futhi uyakwazi ukuzihleka.
   Yenza ukubhuqa kube yingxenye yobuntu bakho futhi ungakuvumeli kuthinte ukuzethemba kwakho.
4. Kuthathe njengenselele: Thatha ukubhuqa njengenselele yokuthuthukisa amakhono akho okubhekana nezimo ezinzima.
   Lisebenzise njengethuba lokuqinisa amandla akho nesineke futhi uphendule ukugxekwa ngesibindi.
5. Phendula nge-positivity: Kwesinye isikhathi, ukubhuqa kungasetshenziswa ukukugqugquzela ukuthi uzuze impumelelo.
   Esikhundleni sokuthinteka kabi yikho, kubheke njengesikhuthazo sokwenza umzamo owengeziwe futhi ubonise ukuthi unekhono futhi uzimisele kangakanani ukunqoba izinselele.
6. Zinike isikhathi sokuphendula: Ukubhuqa kungase kukumangaze, futhi ungase ungazi ukuthi uphendule kanjani esimweni.
   Ngakho-ke, zinike isikhathi sokucabanga ngempendulo efanele.
   Lokhu kungase kukusize ukhethe amagama akho ngokucophelela futhi uthole indlela engcono kakhulu yokusingatha isimo.

Uma ubhekene nokubhuqa kothile, zama ukuphendula ngendlela ebonisa amandla akho nokuzethemba kwakho.
Ukulandela ezinye zalezi zindlela kungase kukusize ukwazi ukubhekana kahle nokubhuqa futhi ugcine ukuzethemba kwakho.